- Saturdays were to be "our night" and not a night for band practice.
- Band practice was to be limited to no more than two days per week, and these days were to be planned so I wasn't left sitting at home by myself without plans of my own.
- Curfew was midnight. (Anything later required a phone call and an explanation, so I didn't worry.)
Now, five years and one child later, our relationship is in a different place, and our "squabbles" are about other things like household finances, bills, and free time. Now, to make me happy, I have a new set of expectations.
- To save as much money as we can for an emergency fund, our son's future, and day trips/vacations.
- To give each other an equal amount of "free time" away from the house for "recharging" after a long week of work, errands, and childrearing.
- To schedule much needed family time on the weekends (especially since our time together is limited on weekdays).
- To assist with household chores, like laundry, vacuuming, etc. etc.
Yes, in these five short years of marriage, I've learned some valuable lessons. I've learned that priorities change, relationships evolve, and that a "happily ever after" doesn't come without it's fair share of squabbles, tests, and compromise. We're not a perfect couple, but we do have two very important things in common--we love each other, and we love Little Lewie. As long as we keep these two very important realites the mission and central focus of our marriage, Wife and life should be happy, very happy.